Me and the Mole..(ester)

You're ruling the way that I move,
and I breathe your air.

You, only, can rescue me
This is my prayer.

-Cherish the Day, Sade

Wow, I love her. That really has nothing to do with the post. Those lyrics just popped in my head and since I think they're great, I feel like everyone else should. Anyways...

So we all remember MJ, right? Stilts may be easier to remember so we'll just go w/ that. Okay so Stilts and I make plans to go to dinner last night. Cool, any sensible man knows the fastest way to a woman's heart is through the stomach. Well, maybe not to the heart but it'll get you at least into the intestinal region. So he calls a few times early just to make sure we were on but I was unavailable( I do this thing called "work" at least sometimes). So, I call him back around 5pm. He wants to know my ETA so he can go ahead and get ready to head my way. First off, pipe down a bit..go have a pb&J, feed your dog, do whatever you do when you wind down. So I'm like, "well, I was thinking it'd be best if you'd not head my way until after 7pm...you know, so traffic will be lighter." I guess that was part of the reason, moreso, that I needed to do something to my hair. Whether I'm trying to make a love connect or not, I need to maintain. You never know who you may run into.

So we spoke again around 7pm he didn't make it to me until 8:45pm, which is cool b/c the Apprentice always keeps my interested. Leave, drive, park, yadda, yadda. We went to Houston's which is a really nice restaurant and I hadn't been to the one in Chicago so that was enjoyable. Foods good we're making small talk, then the age-issue resurfaces.

Background: Now, when I met him (that Thursday night in a club) he asked my age, I said "24 turning 25 in about a week or two". When I asked him he says, "guess." I think I may have guessed like 32, b/c obviously if you're saying guess then that means I should be surprised by your answer. He looks fairly young so I gave him 32 for padding. At that point, he decided not to tell me..so I didn't press it, I didn't really care. So, we exchange numbers as did he and one of my girls. I just looked at it like, he's cool..he rolls w/ the promoter...and our drinks were free..why not. That was a little background. Did I mention I was scatterbrained?

Anyways, so when I went over last weekend it came up for the 2nd time and he does the guess thing. Come on now, spare me. Then settles on the fact that he's 28. That's cool, I'm still not really interested like that, but it's good to know I'm not hanging out w/ a Mole(ester).

During our entrees, he asks "Did you ever guess how old I was?" I'm like you told me...28. Then he says something about forgetting what he'd said. Then asks me to tell him what I guessed again. Dammit...now, I know that when a) I don't really know you and b) am not really interested romantically, I can come off as quiet, shy, and/or nonchalant. It's nothing I do on purpose but guys in his category tend to tell me this despite the fact that I'm none of the above. Maybe nonchalant at times, but that's neither here nor there. Bottomline to all of that was: don't try me and your getting on my nerves. So I'm just like, "No, I'm not doing that, just tell me." Him: "I don't want to scare you off." Me: Looking at him w/ the I-don't-give-a-shit-so-just-get-to-the-point face. Do you know what he comes out his face with?

40. Yes, nigga, 40. I couldn't do anything but chuckle. Partially b/c I couldn't believe he initiated a lie like that, b/c I never really inquired into his life too much. Otherwise, b/c I've been looking for an out and you just gave me one.

So I just pretty much smiled and nodded the rest of the time. He asked if I'd dated older men and I told him yes but not quite as old as him. He asked if I had a problem w/ dating older guys and I say that I don't have a problem persay, it's just that we're often on different pages. So I didn't give a definitive answer, and given that I'm grown, I won't.

Don't really feel like rehashing anymore of the dinner convo b/c I don't really care so why would I think anyone else would. What I do know is that was some bullshit. Is it just me or was that foul? To me, his lying clearly indicates that he feels that there's "something wrong" with the fact that he's 40. He's not justified in saying that he did that b/c he didn't want to scare me off b/c I never gave him a reason to think that I'd have a problem with it. Would you lie to someone about your age? Let me state a quick disclaimer: I'm not going to say that in a situation where I was really feeling someone that this would totally kill the deal. I'd probably harp on it for a minute, but if I liked him then I'd get over it. However, this shuts ole' boy down b/c he didn't have his foot in the door from jump, he really wasn't too far past the front gate. I'd already peeped out the window and decided I wasn't going to answer anyway. I don't want nonna' what you sellin'!!!

So let's revisit:
a) Was that foul?
b) Do you lie about your age?
c) What's your old ass doing promoting parties and jukin' in the club any damn way?

Thoughts??